When I was growing up, it was said that an average family was a husband, wife, 2.5 kids, and a dog. My response? I would like to see that .5 of a kid. Many Christians still have that view of a family today.
Times have changed and we have to change our worldview to keep up with them. No longer does the average family include a husband and wife. According to the Business Insider, 72% of adults were married in 1960, compared to only 51% today. According to eHow, in 2000, the average family size was 2.59. The number of one parent households is increasing. No longer is the mother and father household considered the “norm”.
If we condemn single parents for being single, we lose our ability to witness to them. We have to accept them for who they are before we can hope to have them listen to our witness. Condemning them only assures they will never listen.
We have all seen Westboro Baptist Church in the news, boycotting everything and everyone because they believe God hates them, but are we really any better? Do we secretly believe the same thing, but are gutless enough to not say it? Are we hypocrites? Should we even believe this way?
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 KJV
“And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:31 KJV
If God loves the world, who are we to preach his hatred for the world? If we do that, we make him out to be a liar, and we know he is not a liar. If we are to act like Christians, we have to love everyone too. That includes those we think are living a sinful life.
Why do I say “think”? Because Jesus said, in Matthew 7:1-3,
“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” ASV
We are not perfect, so we have no right to judge.
The Pharisees judged everyone. Do you want to be a Pharisee? No? Then don’t judge. The Pharisees preached a strict adherence to the law as the way to salvation. Do you want to be a Pharisee? No? Then don’t preach the Deuteronomical law as the key to salvation. Jesus is the key to salvation.
Gasp. Why do you say that? What is the law there for, then?
“(for the law made nothing perfect), and a bringing in thereupon of a better hope, through which we draw nigh unto God.” Hebrews 7:19 ASV
“But when they persisted in asking Him, He straightened up, and said to them, ‘He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.’” John 8:7 ASV
Those who, for whatever reason, don’t fit into our perception of what makes a family, may still be a family. Yes, there are times when people live together without a commitment, but those who do have that commitment are still a family. Even homosexuals who live together with a commitment should be considered “family”.
Heresy! The Bible says homosexuality is sin.
We are not talking sin here, but family. Family does not have to be related by blood to be family. If that were the case, husbands and wives would not be families. Adopted children would not be family. We don’t believe these things, so why do we believe homosexuals cannot be family? We don’t have to approve of a couple’s lifestyle in order to consider them a family. Again, if you condemn them for what they have done, you will never be able to witness to them. Only those who don’t judge them will be able to witness to them.
Does that mean they will quit being a homosexual once they become Christians?
Quit judging people. That is God’s job, not yours. If they are homosexual, it is between them and God. Your job is to love them. Quit hating people because you think they are sinful.